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SAMPLE MEETING FORMAT FOR SEX AND LOVE ADDICTS ANONYMOUS

You may use any or all of these suggestions)
Pre-meeting:  Hand out the S.L.A.A. Preamble, the Twelve Steps, the Twelve Traditions, and the Promises to be read.

OPENING

  • The Chairperson begins the meeting on time, and announces “Welcome to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. My name is _____ and I am a sex and love addict.”  Please join me in a moment of silence, followed by the Serenity Prayer.

    God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I
    can, and the wisdom to know the difference.  Your will, not mine, be done.

  • I have asked someone to read the S.L.A.A. Preamble…
  • For the safety of our group, this meeting is closed to outsiders and those who are merely curious. However, anyone who thinks they may have this problem will be welcome, as long as the anonymity of those persons attending the meeting is respected. [Meetings can also be open to anyone, your Group Conscience will decide this.]
  • I have asked someone to read the Twelve Steps of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous…
  • In order to provide a safe environment for everyone, we avoid cross-talk in our meetings. Cross-talk is interrupting someone when they are sharing, commenting on what someone shares, talking to someone directly in the meeting, or referencing what someone has said in this or another meeting. We also avoid excessive detailing of our acting out behaviors
  • If there are any newcomers present, welcome!  Please introduce yourself using your first name only, sharing is optional.  [Distribute Newcomer Packets at this time] 
  • It is now time to open the floor for sharing:  The leader will now announce the topic of the meeting, length of sharing time, and ask for a volunteer timekeeper if needed

CLOSING

  • The Chairperson thanks the speaker/meeting members/time‑keeper, etc.

  • 7th TraditionWe now pass the basket according to our 7th Tradition which states, “Every S.L.A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions”.  All money collected is used for meeting expenses, literature costs, and to carry the message to others in need of recovery from sex and love addiction.  During this time, I have asked someone to read the Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A.

  • Are there any program‑related announcements?

  • A message about 13th Stepping – 13th stepping is manipulating another person in recovery, especially a newcomer, into a sexual, emotional, or romantic relationship.  This behavior is wholeheartedly discouraged in S.L.A.A.

  • It is now time to close our meeting. Everyone is encouraged to make contact with other members after the meeting and/or during the week for support and encouragement. In closing, we would like to remind you that the opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them.  Take what you like and leave the rest.  Also, anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our program.  If we are to recover, we must feel free to say what is in our minds and hearts.  Therefore, who you see here, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here.

  • End the meeting with a prayer, e.g. the Serenity Prayer, Lord’s Prayer, Moment of Silence, etc.  Some meetings are hand‑holding or non‑hand‑holding meetings.  Group conscience should decide.